Thanks for all of your awesome comments! It makes my day to know that people still care! Anyway, I was chatting with my great friend Amber T., and we were talking about how sometimes we feel like blogging can become a competition. Not really intentionally, but I think we sometimes make our lives out to be prefect--especially when we only post pieces of what has been going on. After that I decided that I wouldn't blog anymore because I didn't want anyone to get the impression that things are always perfect here at the Tuletts! After that decision I felt bad for not keeping up with friends and family through blogging, so instead I decided to post both the fun and the not-so-fun. This may not make sense to anyone, but I really want to be more realistic and honest in my journaling, because let's face it, life can be hard!!!Fun thing: Reid and Link are so cute together. Link doesn't really laugh out loud much, and the only person that can really get a belly laugh out of him is his big bro. So, if we are driving somewhere, and Link starts to get fussy I just tell Reid to make him laugh, and all is well!
Not-so-fun: Link doesn't sleep. At all. I have tried all of the tricks, (babywise can kiss my sleepless behind) but this kid wants me every 2-3 hours. I love him to death, but at 2am I am rethinking the number of kids I want. Reid has also decided to get up at 4 everyday, so one of us usually goes and sleeps on his floor until he settles down. Needless to say, I still feel like I have a newborn, and it doesn't help that everyone I talk to brags about how their baby slept through the night at one week. It's usually the first thing they say when I tell them Link's not a great sleeper. It's so helpful I could scream.
There you go! The good, the bad and the ugly!
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Aftyn doesn't sleep and instead of getting better it's getting worse! I feel for ya good luck but I promise someday he will sleep it just might take a couple of years. p.s. #5 due in May
So sorry! That's never helpful for your sanity.
You crack me up! You think way to much about stuff but I am glad you decided to blog again and regardless of what you say I know you are perfect!
About the sleeping thing just drug him up! Or buy awesome ear muffins to block out the screaming.
Ha! What do I know:)
Sleepless nights are not fun! Tegan still has bad nights and he is 21 months. I totall know what you mean about blogging. Sometimes mine turns into a whiny session I hardly talk about the good times :)
I know what you mean about the blog competition thing. There are some blogs that I have a hard time reading, because I feel like I need to live up to something, and then I look at my blog, and get all self-conscious--like I'm either being too witchy or too braggy. Dumb. I'm glad you're posting again though. Jared and I have missed you and your little family. Glad to know that you're doing well, except for the sleep thing. That stinks so much!
It's so nice when a sibling can be given a task and actually be successful at it.
Sorry you aren't getting much sleep. That's never any fun.
I don't know if I shared what we did for our kids to get them sleeping through the night. It worked with 4 of our 5 in a matter of 1-2 weeks and one held out for 3 months. So, it may not be fun but if you're desperate then it's worth a shot.
Graeden was about 5 or 6 weeks old and I was tired. More tired than I knew I ever could be. He'd wake up and I'd feed him while I was still in bed. I'd lay on my back with my knees up and prop him up against my legs and he could burp himself and then I'd put him back down again. Well, one morning I woke up to find Graeden under the covers between my legs. Yeah, I could have suffocated him easily and been totally oblivious to it.
Tymon was talking to his mom about it and she told him the secret. The secret that worked on 3 of her 4 kids and it didn't work on one because he was a little sickly in the beginning.
The secret? It's simple: Don't feed Link at night and he won't get up.
Of course, it's harder than it sounds. We spent one week of HELL with Graeden. He'd wake up and cry and we'd just rock him, sing to him, walk him around the house, whatever it took to calm him down we did: except we did NOT feed him.
I remember one night being SO frustrated that I took him to the other end of the house, strapped him in his car seat, got a blanket around him and kissed him goodbye. I went to my room and shut the door. Mean? Nah, he fell asleep sometime later and woke up a few hours later at a more decent time.
My definition of sleeping through the night changed over time. At first when they are brand new, yes one day old, it means I feed the baby at 11pm or midnight and then get up and feed them again at 5 am. Then it changes to 10 pm and later 6am and then 7 am, etc. Anyway, it's definitely NOT easy, but it is simple. AND there's the bonus of no diaper changes in the night since they aren't eating at night.
Let me know if you want more info. I KNOW that we wouldn't have had so many kids so quickly if we had also been sleep deprived. If you have a tough skin and can get over some of the stupid comments people make about being mean to your baby by "starving" him, then you'll be okay. BTW, it's usually older people who no longer have babies at home that make such dumb comments. I feel your pain and don't want you to suffer longer than is needful. Seriously, try it. Give it a solid 7-10 days and see if you can get at least 5 hours of sleep in a row. Sleep is truly AMAZING. :o)
Best wishes.
Oh my gosh Bridge, that was a GINOURMOUS comment!!! :)
I had a little bit different experience with two kids in the room, but I did use "Happy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child" and that does seem to work well. I know what it is like to be completely sleep deprived, I feel for you!!! I hope that things get better soon!!!
-Erin C
until recently (like a couple weeks) my boys were doing the SAME thing! only blake would wake up 2-3 times in the middle of the night and be up for the day at 5! (also leaving me questioning if we'll even have any more kids!) there is nothing worse than trying to take care of a toddler and baby on no sleep. i wish i had some great advice, but i'm sure you've tried everything already... so did i, i just had to wait it out and keep trying different things. i hope things gets better for you soon! it's a good thing they're cute right!?
ps. it's great to have you back in the blogging world...i love seeing what you guys are up to, you're kids are adorable and growing so fast! :o)
I sooooo feel your pain. Logan was up every hour all night until 9 months and would only take 2 20 minute naps during the day. When he finally went to 3 hour stretches at night...I was in heaven! It's only been the last 4-5months that he has done well at night...his nap (1) is up to 1 - 1 1/2 hours which is a lot for this kid!!!
Once Logan was a about 10 months and my Ped said he really didn't need to eat at all at night anymore, then we started the battle of getting him to sleep. Once Brian wasn't slammed at school then he is the one who really did it.
Once Link gets to the point that he really doesn't need to eat at all during the night, then find a time when Nate doesn't have huge school needs for a couple of days and try ONLY Nate getting up with Link at night. Basically if he knows it is his Mama...then he wants you to feed him...or knows you'll give in to his wants...basically you are so tired and just want him to sleep you'll give him anything to sleep...or at least that is the point I got to.
After a few nights of only Brian getting Logan and Brian not feeding him or playing, Logan finally got the hint. It wasn't perfect right away...we still have up once a night or so for a little while, but within a week or two he was normally sleeping through the night..or at least 8-9 hour stretches. I won't lie...it's a battle when you decide to fight them for sleeping at night, but that is what finally worked for us.
Until then I totally feel your pain and hope he lets you sleep a little more soon!!!!!
I can relate Carlee, and I'm with Erin on this one. I got that book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child and it helped.
You're so clever and fun and I LOVE that you feel it's not normal to be perfect all the time. I think it's crazy that we feel like we have to be and then feel guilty for feeling like that! So yay! You guys are back. I admit I've been a little bloggy slacker myself, mostly because I'm tired and I also feel your baby pain! I'm not sure what happened to my munchkin but she's now a grimlin. compleate with throwing herself on the floor wailing and kicking her feet. So Not cool! And Where??? did She learn that? Oh well. I hope you get some sleep soon.
Camea
i totally agree with you about how some blogs are just too good to be true! perhaps its because we only ever feel like reporting on the good? we could all be better about taking time to report the "ugly" too. thanks for the reminder. so good to see you and the boys today-- you looked GREAT-- one would never guess you are absolutely sleep deprived!
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